Let’s start with what we all want. To live an abundant life. And why not?
Abundance is ours to have. Think it. Feel it. Love it. Have it. All.
It always begins with the belief. The belief that you are worthy of having it all and that is okay. No need to feel guilty, you deserve it.
Imagine what it like to have all you desire. Taste it. Smell it. Touch it. There is no reason for it not to be yours.
And yet, we are often full of doubt.
Enter Comparison. Grrr, The Thief of Joy!
As the lovely Lucy Sheridan puts it:
Beware: compare and despair!
We all do it. But, we don’t have to.
Social Media, the root of all comparison evil. Right?
Today we have never been so connected, to bear witness so easily to the lives of others. My love and loathing for Social Media are of equal measure. Does that make sense to you?
It is all far too easy to drown in photos of other people’s lives and compare them to your own. Why? Why do we do it to ourselves?
Hands up, I do it. My big comparison guilty pleasure is bodies. Those perfect sun-kissed bodies. Long legs. Shapely yet not flabby. Toned but not too muscly. Whereas, my boobs are too big. My legs too short. It was not so long ago I tortured myself over bodies which mine will never, ever resemble. Silly me.
However, recently a big shift occurred. I am guilty of late of thrusting my happiness on others. I recently got married and life is pretty darn awesome right know. As demonstrated by my Social Media posts.
What I realised is that, since I met my husband, adopted our pup and I am the happiest I have ever been, I no longer have life envy. I am only focused on me and my life. In fact, while on honeymoon, I even posted a picture of me and my stumpy little legs in a bikini. Go me! Although, family pictures with children still bring a slight twinge of panic as we want our little family to grow someday.
What does this show?
We identify the gaps in our own lives, which appear whole in other people’s. Our comparison is based on focusing on what we consider we lack ourselves. How ridiculous is that. Crazy.
It takes work to switch that focus. To remind ourselves of what we have rather than what we don’t.
I believe without a doubt that we can create the lives we want. The power of the mind knows no bounds. The best thing is that this power is yours. Grab it!
I feel most abundant when I am full of love. For my family, friends, animals, nature and for the things I do. I went from being single and moving back to my mum’s to marrying the love of my life within a year. I believed in myself and that I deserve everything I want in life.
I accepted where I was in life in that moment. I accepted all the things which made me feel abundant. I accepted myself.
What do abundance and comparison mean to you? Do you need to make a shift occur?