Are you too creative, too geeky, too innovative or too full of heart to clock in and clock out of a 9-5?
Are you instead now working a 24/7 just to survive?
It is Ebonie’s mission to help you live a fully rounded three dimensional, successful and self-governed life where you feel good on the inside and look great on the outside. It’s time to THRIVE.
Ebonie Allard is a certified Coach, a Misfit turned Maven, an Adventurer, a Yogini and a Tattooed Badass Chick who dedicates her days to enabling misfit freelancers, business owners and entrepreneurs to live their lives in joy, now!
It’s all about leaning into life’s adventurous twists and turns and I encourage everyone to reconnect with the inner wisdom we all carry within. At my core I believe that it is our responsibility to shine, to bring our gifts to the world, and to encourage others to do the same.
Meet Ebonie Allard.
How has your own personal journey influenced your work and life choices?
Wow this is a great question and I guess for me it’s the other way around, my work and life choices have hugely influenced my personal journey! Choosing to work and live in a way that challenges and supports me every day and has me on my personal edge of resistance and growth simultaneously has been choice that has influenced all that I am and the journey that I am on.
You have just written your first book (yay), what inspired you to turn your dreams into reality and how did you get started?
Once a project or an idea gets a hold of me that’s it, it happening, but I guess the best way of describing my process is that I spend some time with the idea, gathering the pieces of it, feeling the energy of it and collecting and compiling and then I break it down into it’s component parts and then work out what has to happen in order for that to happen. When I have asked the question enough times the pieces are small enough to schedule them, and once its scheduled it’s in and it’s happening.
‘Misfit to Maven’ is intended to encourage people who feel like they are ‘misfits’ (different, ashamed and alone) to embrace who they are, trust themselves and know that they are never too much and always enough.
What approach do you take to helping others?
I believe that helping others from a place of what I call selfulness is incredibly important. If you are running on empty you are scraping the barrel with what you can give, which can lead to resentment and isn’t great for anyone long term. I have found that if I have filled myself up first, if I have a barrel full, then I have so much more to give and it no longer leads to resentment, but instead comes from a place of joy and spreads joy. So I am a take care of me first and then share the love kinda girl.
I coach people who are too innovative, geeky, creative or too full of heart to clock in and clock out of a job and life to create a life as extraordinary as they are, that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside… !!
Tell us about the key challenges you see facing people today?
I see a lot of people looking externally for the answers to their problems and trying to fill a hole that they feel inside of themselves with things outside of them, when the truth is that this feeling is an invitation to investigate the feelings inside and explore the universe that is inside of them. Its in there that we find our answer which we can then share with out there.
Each of us is unique and it is that uniqueness that is our gift to the world. In your weirdness is your wonder! Every one of us sees problems to be solved; it is not our job to bemoan them but instead to be a part of the solution. It is our duty to shine, to creatively bring our gifts to the world, and to encourage others to do the same.
How do we create an extraordinary life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside?
The short answer to that question is one day at a time, with breathe and presence and connections. The longer answer is unique and personal to each one of us and will change and evolve with us as we do, what I have tried to do is deliver a set of principles that can be returned to again and again no matter where you are at in your extraordinary life.
What are your top tips for those times when we feel more Argh! than Ahhh! and want to quit?
Firstly take a moment to stop and breathe.
Then ask yourself some better questions. Asking “why is this happening to me?” Is never going to help you want to grow or move forward. Asking “What am I learning here?” Might.
Do something that will get you feeling good, no matter how unrelated it seems. If you are stuck and in an ARGH rut, do something else completely – go watch a movie, call a friend, go for a walk, cuddle the cat… do something to get you back to yourself.
Remind yourself of why you started and what your intention for the bigger picture is. Focus on that and find one single thing that will take you one step closer to it, or remembering the feeling of it.
What advice would you give to anyone wishing to make the move from Misfit to Maven?
The move from Misfit to Maven is one of reframing and believing that you can, by setting yourself up to win. The first step of setting yourself up to win is to know yourself well enough to help. If you were going to set a child up to win you’d find out what they were good at and work to their strengths – do that for yourself.
What does Holistic living mean to you?
It means being mindful of the whole of my being and life, the physical, intellectual, emotional and spiritual. It means having an internal and external life and awareness.
What is your message to cynics, sceptics, and the intrigued?
I guess my biggest message is that you have all the answers to all your questions, and you belong – no matter who you are, or how much of a misfit you feel, that your ‘home’ the place where you feel belonging is inside of you first and foremost and once you have figured out the riddle you are home wherever you might be in the world. The way you do anything, is the way you do everything so show up, with a whole and kind heart and enjoy the adventure for all of its ups and downs.
Finally, what are your top five tips for self-love?
- Take time each day to connect with how you feel. Scan for the good, and feed and water it. Allow it to grow by giving it light and air and encouraging it to multiply.
- Have an opinion. At first, you don’t need to share it, and you don’t need to be passionate about it, but ask yourself, what do I think or feel about this? And explore it. Get to know yourself and whats important to you.
- Eat, sleep, move, live like you love yourself. Self Love has now become a term and as such is no longer an active thing, keep it active – ask the question “How can I love myself today?” and listen for an answer – it might be quiet, but a little voice will whisper something to you.
- Say no. When you mean no. When it doesn’t feel good or you can’t say a “I’m going to do this with my full presence and attention” you have so many things to say yes to, why would you say yes to things that you don’t want to do.
- Say yes. Even if it scares you. Even if you’re not sure how, especially if you’re not sure how!
and 6… just cause I’m a rebel 😉 Ask for help, just because it’s self-love, you don’t have to do it alone, ask your friends what they do, or go dancing together, or cook together or if the act of self love is tidy my house, but it’ just too much – ask your pal to come and help.. make her or him a cuppa and do it together.
Wake Up. Kick Ass. Be Kind. Repeat.